STOP OVERTHINKING RIGHT NOW. You cannot plan out situations and conversations in advance
Openers don't even matter all that much. What matters is how you deliver them the openers and how you express yourself throughout the interaction (from open to close).
Make it seem like fate. It's natural that way.
I use a "tester" i.e "Excuse me" or "Hi" to see her reaction. If she's receptive I go direct, if not I go indirect. A "tester" lasts for 1-2 seconds so you have to be quick on your feet.
And we're back with The Ugly Truth,
where we're gonna be talking about...
...what it is men and women
really want in relationships.
I've been looking through some books.
Smart Women, Foolish Choices.
Men Who Love Women
Who Hate Them.
And Women Hating Men Who
Loved Women Who Hate Loving Men.
Billions and billions wasted
on psychobabble bullshit.
Now, listen up, ladies, because
I'm only gonna say this once...
...and it is just three little words:
Men are simple.
We cannot be trained.
All this, "men are from Venus" crap
is a waste of your time and money.
You wanna be a lonely hag,
then that's fine...
...keep reading these stupid books.
But you want a relationship,
then here's how you get one:
It's called a Stairmaster.
Get on it, and get skinny...
...and get some trashy lingerie
while you're at it...
...because at the end of the day,
all we're interested in is looks.
And no one falls in love
with your personality at first sight.
We fall in love with your tits
and your ass...
...and we stick around because of
what you're willing to do with them.
"Sooooo...Hi. We don't talk much, do we? Kathy, was it? My name's Rod. I do awesome stunts all the time with my friends. You probably didn't know that. And you probably have lots of cool stuff about you that I don't know. Point is, if you don't sit down with someone and really talk and get to know them you'll never find those things out."
If someone knows you're doing this, their rejection doesn't count.
If you don't ask, you'll never know. You need to ask to get what you want!
One. Praise specifically, "You did a good job cleaning your room.”, “That’s a good decision.” or “I like the way you used lots of color in this picture.” Sincerity is in the specifics.
Great job
Way to go
Good work
You don’t have to praise, or even acknowledge, things he just does for the joy of it, for his own reasons. Planned exercise - write down how many times you praised and how many times you criticized for a day. Praises need to outnumber criticisms.
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Two. When parents don’t expect obedience, they generally don’t get it. Reaction to an action (consequences), taking 'privileges' away:
YouTube
tomorrow
rest of the week
next week too
Tablet games
tomorrow
rest of the week
next week too
Friends
Timeout
5
10
Writing
Lying
quicksand of deceit
I mean you lie—under a mistake.
Show me a liar, and I will show thee a thief.
For no falsehood can endure.
Whose tongue soe'er speaks false, Not truly speaks; who speaks not truly, lies.
A liar is not believed even though he tell the truth.
Sin has many tools, but a lie is the handle which fits them all.
Repetition does not transform a lie into a truth.
what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive!
You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all the time.
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Three. Ignore the little things, such as boys being boys.
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Four. Reward charts may smooth progress. Add yourself to the chart with a longer goal, just remember: keep it simple, make it fun (KISMIF). The first reward chart I made was of ten spaces. After an hour of learning (computer programming) code, for me, and after 30 min. of learning any language, for them, a sticker was gained. After ten, ideally made within two weeks, came a prize. A similar method is the ticket system. Giving or taking tickets for good or bad behaviour. It works on the spot.
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Five. A preemptive reminder is preventative. The situation will be when you see them do something, an action that may lead to a bad action, and think to yourself, "Should I stop them completely...while waiting to see what happens..." Instead, toss a reminder into the mix for less hypertension.
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Six. Everyone wins when cutting deals. Just don't bother if they're moody or mad. And don't compromise on things where there should be no room for it.
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Seven. Withdraw privileges, matching to the misbehaviour is best.
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